We are so excited to bring you our first Come As You Are Conversation. This month we explore what self-care means for us, how we define it, what it is, what it isn’t, and how it can bring in sacred ritual, much needed boundaries, and more into our everyday lives. We’re taking a broad-strokes look this month, our first month of The Self-Care Sanctuary. Next month, we’ll get super specific with a theme and spend the entire month exploring that theme, but first, let’s spend some time talking about – and defining for ourselves – what self-care means.

Grab a cup of tea, your journal, and come be in conversation with us. When you’re done listening, we’d love to hear your thoughts, noticings, what came up for you, and more in the comments section below! You can also use #selfcarewithlacyandkellyrae on Instagram to share your journey (the more we talk about self-care publicly, the more we give others permission to do the same).

XO,
Lacy + Kelly Rae

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After listening to this month’s Come As You Are Conversation above, we invite you to find a cozy spot with your journal for what we like to call Soul Work Homework. It’s a chance to engage your heart as a way into deeper knowings about yourself and what’s calling to you in the realm of deeply caring for yourself.

Before you begin your Soul Work Homework, we invite you to light three candles, one for each intention of clarity, compassion, and expansion.

When you’re ready, please answer the following prompts in your journal.

1) Write a list of your current self-care practices that you want to acknowledge. No judgment here. We want you to take a loving inventory of what you’re currently doing so that you have a baseline, a beginning point, from which to expand from. It’s also about celebrating and acknowledging your practice as it stands today. Be as specific as possible.

2) Now, consider other self-care practices you want to invite into your life. Write them down, however small, big, or inconceivable they may seem. Remember, we’re trying to define what self-care means for us, not what we’ve been told it means or what it might look like for someone else. What practices are you interested in exploring and experimenting with? Could be working with various elements (water, fire, etc.) as a way into deeper care. Could have something to do with creativity, meditation, travel, or anything else. What seems intriguing/interesting/resonant for you? Bonus: Come back and add more of your responses to this prompt after listening to this month’s Raise Your Vibration Meditation.

3) As we begin our journey together into an expanded awareness and definition of self-care, consider what would be a breakthrough for you? Write it down.

4) At the end of each day for this entire month, we’d like for you to do what we call the Daily Completion Ritual. It’s a quick, but potent ritual that closes out the day with gratitude, forgiveness, celebration, and self-compassion. It goes like this: At the end of each day, find a quiet space for about five minutes. Could be in the shower, in a cozy chair, or wherever you are comfortable. If you’d like, light a candle. Now, take a few deep breaths to center yourself before moving on to the next step. Then, lovingly place your hand over your heart and answer the following questions quietly to yourself. (If you prefer, you can answer them in your journal.)

What brave choices did I make today for my self-care practice? What choices can I celebrate? What worked?

What can I forgive myself for? What didn’t work?

What small, brave choices can I make tomorrow that can nourish my self-care practice?

When you’re done answering your questions, say the following out loud: “Dearest Monday/Tuesday/etc., When it comes to my self-care practice, thank you for ______________. I discovered that I can _____________. You were a wise teacher when it came to ______________. Thank you. I honor you. I celebrate you. I declare you complete.”

Share your journey:
If you’re feeling called to share what you’re discovering, please do so in the comments below and/or on Instagram, using our shared hashtag, #selfcarewithlacyandkellyrae.

INTRO 3:25 mins
MEDITATION 11:00 mins

In this 11-minute guided meditation you will imagine your body, the sanctuary of your soul, as a physical structure. Inside your sanctuary you’ll find the cathedral of your own heart that holds valuable information. Go within to discover what kinds of care your soul is calling for right now.

Use this meditation throughout the month (everyday if you can!) to gather information and begin to take inspired action on what would feel most loving for you today. Notice how the visions and messages change throughout the month. Allow yourself to more fully develop the image of your sanctuary each time you use this meditation.

Meditation PRO TIP:
Come what may, STAY in the meditation. Commit to sitting for the full 11 minutes. This is a practice of mastering your physical body so that as you continue your meditation practice you may go beyond the body and into new levels of awareness.

Journal/Share:
We encourage you to journal what you discover in your meditations. And if you’re feeling called to share, please do so in the comments below and/or on Instagram, using our shared hashtag, #selfcarewithlacyandkellyrae.

Kelly Rae made an exclusive, just for you, Nourish Your Soul mantra print! To download it, right-click either of the images above, or right-click here. Much like the monthly meditation, the mantra is meant to be used and seen regularly throughout the month.

We believe in the power of words. What you say and think starts to shape your reality and something as simple as downloading this mantra print, placing it somewhere you’ll see it each day, and reading it daily can begin to reprogram the mind and shape your life with effortless ease.

COPY HERE

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Journal/Share:
We encourage you to journal your thoughts as you listen. And, if you’re feeling called to share what you’re discovering, please do so in the comments below and/or on Instagram, using our shared hashtag, #selfcarewithlacyandkellyrae.