This is a big mantra for me. It helps keep my ego from spiraling DOWN when I make a mistake and it helps keep my ego from spiraling UP when I have a success. Often, mistakes and successes are other-esteemed (when we judge ourselves based on the reactions/approval from others), causing our sense of confidence to sway depending on if we land on the mistake or land on the success.
The mantra, “I’m not my mistakes OR my successes” helps keep my ego in check and keeps me neutral and grounded in a place of simply doing my inner work – a place that is self-esteemed – so that it can go out and become what is known as my outer work (my art, writings, etc), which, of course, is the stuff that becomes judged and potentially other-esteemed (If I allow it to be).
I’m going for the self-esteemed, that place where judgement is (hopefully) less critical, where inner work is nurtured, where creativity is celebrated, where nothing is ever wasted, and where the truest of essence can reside, and where integrity is the only measuring stick I worry about.
There is SO MUCH FREEDOM when we don’t take our mistakes or our successes too personally, and we just show up to do the work, guided by all that is light and good.