Over in my online business and wellness tribes, I’ve been talking a lot about dismantling the shame we sometimes feel as biz owners, mothers, women, human beings. I struggled with it big time last week as a biz lady when I wasn’t able to deliver something I had promised. When it comes to my biz, I pride myself on being dependable and so I felt awful about it, messy, and afraid. Would my audience jump ship? Would they send me angry emails? Would I disappoint them?
What I learned was this: we are so much harder on ourselves than we ought to be. Actually, I already knew this but when you’re in the thick of it, it’s hard to remember.
Sometimes we hold ourselves to a standard we wouldn’t apply to other leaders. My measuring stick for worthiness and value last week revealed the weak spots around my tendencies to people please and not disappoint in the arena of business. It was GOOD soul work, and I’m grateful.
And so. I just showed up, told the truth, and apologized. My people did not leave, unsubscribe, or send me angry emails. Instead, they supported me, sent get well emails, and said they were proud of me for taking care of myself. .
I love how life gives us the mirrors we need to receive: It’s okay. Rest. We’ll be here when you get back. You’re allowed to get sick. Thank you for mirroring what it looks like to be a human and take care of yourself. Thank you for giving me permission to do the same.
So, friends. Here’s to staying true. Trusting. Forgiveness. Self-compassion. And thanking our lucky stars for those that stick with us with their generosity. xo
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