You know those dressing rooms that have three-sided mirrors? I found myself in one of them recently and let me tell you, the gremlins were having one heck of a party in my head. The loudest, judgiest, unkindest gremlin said this: “For as long as you’ve been working out on your ‘wellness path’, your body should look better. Look at those back rolls!”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
For the last many years, I’ve done a lot of personal self-compassion and kindness work. And I generally find myself being quite kind to myself these days, but then the three mirrored dressing rooms sometimes throw me back into the horrors of my mind. No matter where we are, there is always really good, thoughtful belief work we can do with ourselves.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Enter Byron Katie and her BRILLIANT inquiry work when it comes to the painful beliefs we have about ourselves. I’m a longtime fan of hers. And so I came home from the dressing room and did the work that she suggests on her website ( and I was able to reframe the awful belief I held into one of kindness and love and gratitude. My goal is to do the inquiry work (4 essential questions to ask about the belief) with all the other unkind thoughts that pop up in my head.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I love her idea that “when we believe our thoughts, we lose our awareness of love, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t connected to love.” She says that doing the inquiry work around our thoughts can get us back connected to love, which in turn creates more loving thoughts. I find this to be 100% true and I’m so grateful for her presence in this world.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Anybody else doing belief work with yourselves? As a mom, I’m excited about integrating some of this into parenting. We’ve done a bit of it, but Byron is inspiring me to make it more conscious.

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Sending much love,

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