and me. way back in 2007. my, how time flies. i miss my pigtails!)
earlier this year, i was at a small gathering of women where i had a chance to spend some time with one of my favorite people on the planet: judy wise
. she’s the woman we all want to be when we grow up. she’s the one who says the wisest things in middle of a random conversation. she’s the one that brings you down to earth in all the best ways. she has been on one heck of a personal journey
these last many weeks and i’ve been in awe of how she’s navigated it all – i know it’s not easy for her, but she truly is honoring bravery, tenderness, and humor as she continues to heal.
ANYWAY, earlier this year when we were both at the small gathering, we had a conversation about fears and boundaries and edges. at the end of my spilling my thoughts, she said “kelly, i want you to post everything you just said on your blog. got that?” and i tend to do anything and everything judy tells me to do, so here it is….some visual thoughts on pushing up against our edges and fears and why it’s so important that we do it.
“One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.” Andre Gide
I really love the idea that we are all physical/spiritual forms standing inside our own circle, our own perimeter. Think of that circle as your personal boundary and you are securely placed in the middle of it. When you do things that you never thought you could do or when you take small steps toward your dreams, you are, in essence, bumping up against that boundary, that perimeter. Then, with each fear faced and with each small step taken, you continue to push and push up against that personal boundary until a new boundary/perimeter is formed around you, only this time it’s further out. You are still in the center, but your circle/perimeter has widened all around you so that there’s more room for you to breathe, to dream, to see, to make new friends, to expand your creativity, to try new things.
Try thinking about this visual each time you’re up against a fear. If you choose not to push up against your fears, yourself, your perimenter, then you are choosing to stay within your tight and small safety perimeter as it stands now. But if you bravely push up against your fears, then you’re choosing to push and expand that perimeter little by little with each small step you take. With each fear faced, a new perimeter is formed, a new expansiveness fills your life. Soon, that perimeter will be so wide around you, that you can barely see your own horizon. That’s what’s possible here. That’s the limitlessness that is waiting for you. Own it. Step into it. Embrace it. Celebrate it. Give yourself permission, despite your fears, to dream big, to envision abundance, to define what success means to you. Your limitlessness is waiting. Your horizon is ready to expand.