The Great Mystery of Being a Mom

Jul 25, 2018 | Being A Mama, Life in Progress

I received a question earlier this week about what I do when my mama heart breaks. I loved the question and I don’t think we’re talking enough about it.

True is on the edge of 8 years old (this was a photo of us when he was 3 weeks old), and though my mama heart has cracked many many times, it’s endured a heavy dose of it lately.

He is becoming his own. Watching our children Become is both heart-expanding and heart-breaking all at once. As he reaches for his developmental milestones of independence, I reach for all the permissions and allowances I can give myself to grieve. As he moves slowly away from me, I move closer toward myself. I cry. I process with John. I process with friends. I hold sacred space for him and for myself. I pray. I ask the Angels for guidance. And I celebrate the Great Mystery of Being A Mom.

I won’t be sharing many more photos of True here in this space. For a while now, I’ve been asking for his permission to post images of him and I respect his increasing need for privacy.

I am in awe of him. In awe of this parenting experience. In awe of all that I’ve learned and am learning. And the mama heartbreak is Real. Sending so much love to all of you mom’s out there. I see you, get you, and am right there with you. Let’s be good to our hearts, ok? Nurture them, and allow them every single feeling.


Sending much love,

Show/Hide Comments (5 comments)
  1. tvtap

    Great tips for every mother.


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  3. Sandy

    Oh how true but we wouldn’t miss it for the world! The heart opening is like nothing else. And yes the heart breaking is a Grief but when we allow ourselves to feel it, it eventually melts into love, joyous memories and a pride in our child of this glorious person they are growing into on every step of this amazing journey called Motherhood x

  4. Jeanie Martin

    My mom gave me the best words of wisdom about parenting. You raise your children up to be self sufficient and then when they are, your heart kind of breaks. My children are 31 and 27, fiercely independent and though proud, I feel a bit lost at this time in my life. So, KRR, it doesn’t end. 😘

    • Becky Harvey

      I am right there with you, Jeanie! My children are 31, 28, and 25. All grown up and independent. We move from the active mom role into more of an advisory role. I too feel a bit lost, a bit like I’m waiting for them to return. We carry them physically for 9 months, and I feel unwhole when they are not here with me.
      But, they return to me when I talk to them on the phone, when I receive texts, and when I am lucky enough to spend time with them. Each of them know that I love them deeply, and with my whole heart. They are grown-ups but still need us! Just in a different way.
      No one really understands what a mother heart is, or what a mother heart feels except for other mothers. I’m happy to know that there are moms out there that feel the same as I do!


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